Now, admittedly I have lived in the UK for the past three years, where 31 October just means it is the last day before November – so maybe my Hallowe’en rant has already been aired (and I do not mean I am upset over the supposed “celebration of evil” thing). Maybe living in a country that considers Hallowe’en an “American Scourge” has insulated me from the furor. If so, I appear to not only have missed the start of the debate, but I also think I have missed the “tween” sexual revolution that seems to be the cause of the latest angst…
What am I talking about? I guess if you are one of those people who closes the curtains, turns off the porch light and ignores the doorbell and high-pitched chorus of “Trick or Treat, smell my feet”, or does not parent a twelve year-old girl, you probably have no clue of what I am talking about.
For sure, I am not talking about the home-made costumes that I recall my friends wearing when I was a kid…you remember the ghosts and cowboys and ladybugs and cats and mummies. No, they were cute and age-appropriate.
Time has been kind to the boys – but what about the girls?? How many news stories and blogs have I seen on the subject of costumes for young girls? It seems that Cinderellas and Faeries and Raggedy Anns have been replaced by Pseudo-Stripper costumes that look more at home in an Adult ‘marital aids” store than the girls’ costume department at Wal-Mart.
If you are not sure what I mean, how about this for a visual…
If everyone’s complaining about them, who is buying them?
Time for one of my tangents….
What’s happening? Is it something as simple as believing that young girls want to – or should – emulate the options available to grown women? As one of my Facebook friends commented cynically, the Hallowe’en Party at the local watering hole was shaping up to be a “Slutty Policewomen Convention”…I am sure there were a few skanky nurses to be seen, too.
Is that we want to our daughters to use as role models?
Now I am all about hearing the other side…debate should invite discussion and growth comes through entertaining differing views. But despite several blogs on the issue, include Dan Savage’s commentary that Hallowe’en should be celebrated as Heterosexual Pride Day or Heterowe’en (WARNING: some good old-fashioned “adult” language in the last hyperlink…), I am still unconvinced that we need to “slut”-ify the costumes. I think some of the comments in his article may ring true – and perhaps some have been explored while lying on the psychotherapists couch – but there are also a few comments I oppose (like seriously, isn’t the term “ass-less chaps” an oxymoron – aren’t all chaps “ass-less”?).
Anyway, he is talking about adults and I agree that adults are entitled to dress any way they wish – as long as they abide by popular (and legal) conventions… and if they wish to play a game of Doctor and Nurse in the privacy of their house, who am I to disagree. (I don’t care, but it is not for me… I look horrible in a nurse’s outfit…)
But…
Shouldn’t such attire stay in the adult realm? Selling that sexualised notion to “tween” and “teenage” girls is just plain wrong. Perhaps it is a result of mainstream media or women’s magazines or popular film or music videos. Or maybe it is just a sad second-order effect of depressingly disturbing shows like Toddlers and Tiaras or Honey-Boo-Boo (no pictures…it is just too disturbing).
Whatever it is, I am not a fan. And I guess that I will just leave it at that…
Later,
ASF
4 responses to “Where did all the kids’ costumes go?”
Anonymous
November 6th, 2012 at 05:45
I have to say that no young girls showed up here with inappropriate costumes.
Anonymous
November 6th, 2012 at 12:06
Totally agree. More than a few trick to treaters at my door that made me ask myself “do your parents” know what you’re wearing? And then I would look down the driveway and there was good old mom/dad chaperoning ……seriously????? I really am looking forward to a cold Halloween were they are forced to wear costume over the parka.
Laura@HappyCanadianHome
November 6th, 2012 at 16:00
Thank you for adding your voice … this debate is the story of my life these days …
Pierre McIntyre
November 9th, 2012 at 08:49
And the debate rages on. The saving grace from my perspective was the number of kids who actually pieced together some really good costumes. Oh we had our share of Disney Princesses who”s dress looked like a “I Dream of Jeannie” costumes in the whole gambit of the rainbow colors. But generally they were pretty mundane without the emphasis on the sluttish aspect. We had all kinds of home made from a zombie insane asylum escapee to a military clown in full fighting order (go figure I live on an American Army base). What was really neat was that a full third of the Chaperons (parents) also dressed up in a costume and a few families had a theme costume. My favorite was a Master Chef trick or treater carrying a big cooking pot in front of him. In the pot was his infant son in a lobster costume and mom who was what? You may ask? The dinner quest of course complete with silverware and napkin tied around her neck. Look like everything in life their will always be extremes For Halloween it’s in costume selection to what is considered an acceptable trick//vandalism for not getting the treat. Don’t despair there is a vast majority of people in general who will remain in the center of the spectrum and keep Halloween safe and sound but more importantly fun for us all. After all aren’t we them. I mean aside from Pal in the Nurses uniform who else wore that sluttish costume. As to that pre-teen in the stripper get up she’ll probably be vice cop next year so don’t despair all’s good. Cheers. PI from the ROK